Showing posts with label Same Sex Couples. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Same Sex Couples. Show all posts

Tuesday, September 15, 2020

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE (ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP) IN SAME SEX MARRIAGE


In this case, the court begins as follows:

"The relationship between the parties evidences a classic, unequal power dynamic which is the hallmark of abusive relationships. The parties met in 1989 when plaintiff was only twenty-one years old, having recently moved to New York City from Puerto Rico, and was working several jobs to support a modest lifestyle. Defendant was a successful businessman, fifteen years plaintiff's senior, who quickly began providing plaintiff with a sizable allowance and induced him to quit his jobs. In addition to his financial dependence on defendant, plaintiff was largely ignorant of the parties' financial circumstances, how decisions were made, how property was acquired and financed, or how bills were paid over their decades-long relationship. Disturbingly, this unequal dynamic was evident in the parties' intimate life, where defendant used his power as the breadwinner to instill fear and coerce plaintiff to engage in risky, unprotected group-sex while defendant watched. As a result, plaintiff contracted HIV and was later diagnosed with full-blown AIDS.

Now that the relationship has ended, plaintiff, ill and largely supported by public assistance benefits, seeks maintenance from defendant in place of the financial support he received from defendant both before and during their marriage. Because he believes that defendant cannot be relied on to make monthly payments of maintenance, he requests that it be paid in one large lump sum, and because he is dependent on government health benefits to cover his astronomical medical expenses, he seeks to have that money paid into a Special Needs Trust ("SNT "). Plaintiff also seeks a substantial award of equitable distribution, contending that the parties owned significant real and personal property and that defendant is the longtime owner of a lucrative business. As with maintenance, plaintiff askes that defendant be required to pay the distributive award into an SNT. Finally, plaintiff seeks a judgment for arrears resulting from defendant's failure to pay court-ordered temporary maintenance.


Further complicating this case is defendant's sudden and mysterious "unforeseen financial hardship," which conveniently began at the time this divorce commenced, and which he claims makes him unable to pay maintenance and leaves no assets to be equitably divided. Added to this is defendant's repeated failure to provide documentation to verify his claimed loss of income and assets alongside his complete failure to comply with plaintiff's discovery demands. These failings on defendant's part, coupled with the plaintiff's lack of knowledge about the couple's finances while they were together, greatly hindered plaintiff's ability to demonstrate the actual state of defendant's financial affairs. It also hindered my ability to make precise financial determinations, despite having conducted a three-day trial to resolve the issues of equitable distribution, spousal maintenance, and temporary maintenance arrears."

G.R. v K.R., 2020 NY Slip Op 50976(U), Decided on August 21, 2020, Supreme Court, New York County, Cooper, J.

NOTE: Marital assets were distributed 50 percent for non-business and 15 percent for business ($880,000) and maintenance for 10 years ($2,250 monthly).

Thursday, February 7, 2019

CHILD CUSTODY - DETERMINATION OF PARENTHOOD IN NON-TRADITIONAL FAMILIES



This is from the NYLJ Case Digest Summary - The Appellate Division remanded this case to consider equitably estopping the biological mother from denying her former partner's parentage of her son. The former partner wanted access time with AH pendente lite and relied on court's prior finding interim access was warranted to maintain consistency with AH's experience with her. Here, the court addressed the interim access petition in view of AH's best interest "despite absence of specific statutory authority or applicable case law, directing parties to appear for a framed issue hearing" noting that "ultimate determination of parenthood would be predicated on AH's best interests, setting out criteria for consideration...." 

K.G. v. C.H., NYLJ 2/4/19, Date filed: 2019-01-18, Court: Supreme Court, New York, Judge: Justice Frank Nervo, Case Number: 309154/2016:

"The parties urged this Court to establish criteria for equitable estoppel in order that any appointed forensic expert, as well as all others concerned with the orderly progression of this matter, be properly guided. The elements of equitable estoppel are established by this Court as set forth below. Prior to the date of this order, the parties had been provided the opportunity to object to any or all elements of these criteria on any ground appropriate, particularly in view of objections previously asserted that disputes of this nature present an inherent heightened legal barrier to nontraditional family members. Those objections were found to be entirely without merit by the Appellate Division (163 A.D.3d 67, 78-79). This Court maintains the concern that no criteria here established present any heightened legal barrier, or any unique challenge or unique difficulty whatsoever for members of LGBTQ or other nontraditional families. To date, neither party has presented any objection, and the Court remains available to address any objection which may come to light as this matter proceeds. A number of similar petitions are currently in various stages of litigation within and without the State of New York, and a number of courts are contemporaneously establishing criteria for equitable estoppel as a result of the different records made on different days (as presciently predicted by the Court in Brooke S.B. v. Elizabeth A.D.D., 28 NY3d 1, 28). Therefore, for purposes of distinct reference and clarity, the following criteria shall be designated:

JUDGE NERVO’s CRITERIA FOR EQUITABLE ESTOPPEL

The ultimate determination of parenthood shall be predicated upon the best interests of the child. In consideration thereof, the court will determine and consider the extent to which the petitioner, by clear and convincing evidence:

(1) undertook full and permanent fiscal responsibilities for the child without expectation of financial compensation;

(2) resided with the child;

(3) affirmatively held out the child as her own, or what objective observation of the relationship by others in their community would demonstrate;

(4) otherwise engaged in consistent caretaking of the child;

(5) had been in a parental role for a length of time sufficient to have established with the child a bonded, dependent, parental relationship;

(6) is recognized or acknowledged as parental by the child;

(7) has a close and deep emotional bond with the child;

(8) bonded a dependent relationship with the child, supported, or facilitated, affirmatively or impliedly, by the legal parent;

(9) engaged in decision-making with the legal parent with respect to major issues concerning the child including, but not limited to, health, welfare, education, and any participation in organized religion;

(10) is or was part of any formalized relationship with the legal parent and/or the child; and

(11) how the abrupt, or continued, termination from any and all contact with the petitioner has, or would continue to, adversely affect the child, if at all."




Wednesday, August 31, 2016

THE DECISION ON CUSTODY/VISITATION ON SAME SEX/PARTNER PARENTS





No. 91 - 92 The Matter of Brooke v. Elizabeth A.,The Matter of Estrellita A. v. Jennifer L.D., August 30, 2016, New York Court of Appeals:

"These two cases call upon us to assess the continued vitality of the rule promulgated in Matter of Alison D. v Virginia M. (77 NY2d 651 [1991]) -- namely that, in an unmarried couple, a partner without a biological or adoptive relation to a child is not that child's "parent" for purposes of standing to seek custody or visitation under Domestic Relations Law § 70 (a), notwithstanding their "established relationship with the child" (77 NY2d at 655).  Petitioners in these cases, who similarly lack any biological or adoptive connection to the subject children, argue that they should have standing to seek custody and visitation pursuant to Domestic Relations Law § 70 (a).  We agree that, in light of more recently delineated legal principles, the definition of "parent" established by this Court 25 years ago in Alison D. has become unworkable when applied to increasingly varied familial relationships.  Accordingly, today, we overrule Alison D. and hold that where a partner shows by clear and convincing evidence that the parties agreed to conceive a child and to raise the child together, the non-biological, non-adoptive partner has standing to seek visitation and custody under Domestic Relations Law § 70."

Just a note:  New York law gives grandparents the right to petition for visitation or, in exceptional circumstances, custody. Does this ruling expand the scope of "grandparent"?

Friday, January 31, 2014

ADOPTION AND SAME SEX MARRIAGE

This is the full opinion of the case that has been hitting the news lately:

"Matter of Seb C-M, (Surr., NY, Kings County, Decided January 06, 2014)

This is an uncontested proceeding commenced by A. C. (the petitioner) for the adoption of her infant son, Seb C-M, pursuant to DRL §111, et seq. The petitioner is married to M. M., Seb C-M's birth mother.1 In support of her petition, the petitioner offers, inter alia, a certified copy of Seb C-M's Certificate of Birth Registration, issued by the City of New York, which identifies the petitioner and her spouse, M.M., as the parents of Seb C-M.

The petitioner appears to have filed the instant application out of an abundance of caution, perhaps to ensure that, with the support of judicial imprimatur, her existing parental relationship with the infant is less susceptible to challenge in the event of the family's re-location to a jurisdiction less hospitable to the rights of same-sex couples to marry and adopt children. Indeed, the court is mindful of the uncertainty occasioned by the tectonic shifts occurring in the geography of our culture's definition of "family," particularly with respect to the increasing recognition of the right to marriage equality and adoption by same-sex families, as well as the ethical complexities arising from assisted reproductive technologies.2 However, the relief sought herein by the petitioner is neither necessary nor available.

"Adoption is the legal proceeding whereby a person takes another person into the relation of child and thereby acquires the rights and incurs the responsibilities of a parent in respect of such other person." DRL §110 (emphasis added). The "purpose and effect" of adoption is "…to create a new legal relationship where one did not previously exist. Adoption is not utilized for, nor…is it available to reaffirm, an already existing parent/child relationship." In re Sebastian, 25 Misc. 3d 567, 572 (Sur. Ct. New York Co. 2009) (emphasis in original, citations omitted).3

The petitioner herein was lawfully married to M.M. on April 29, 2011, in the State of Connecticut. The marriage of the petitioner and her spouse was fully recognized by the State of New York even before DRL §10-a took effect on July 24, 2011. See Martinez v. County of Monroe, 50 A.D. 3d 189, 193 (4th Dep't 2008), app. dismissed 10 N.Y. 3d 856 (2008) (New York must recognize as valid same-sex marriages lawfully contracted in other jurisdictions); see also Golden v. Paterson, 23 Misc.3d 641 (Sup. Ct. Bronx County 2008) (upholding Governor Paterson's executive directive that New York State agencies recognize same-sex marriages legally performed in other jurisdictions).

Furthermore, the petitioner's status as the parent of Seb C-M is reflected on his birth certificate, which serves as prima facie evidence of his parentage (Public Health Law §4103). New York courts have long held that the presumption of legitimacy afforded children born of married parents is "one of the strongest and most persuasive known to the law. " David L. v. Cindy Pearl I., 208 A.D. 2d 502, 503 (2d Dep't 1994) (quoting Matter of Findlay, 253 N.Y. 1, 7 [1930]); see also Barbara S. v. Michael I., 24 A.D.3d 451 (2d Dep't 2005). While the traditional understanding implied by the strong, albeit rebuttable, presumption is that a child is the biological offspring of her or his married parents, the court notes that recognition of marriage equality rights, coupled with advances in assisted reproductive technologies, necessarily results in application of the presumption of legitimacy to offspring of parents in lawful same-sex and opposite-sex marriages, regardless of the circumstances of conception, gestation and birth of such children. Indeed, petitioner's status is further protected by the enactment of subsection (2) of DRL §10-a:

[n]o government treatment or legal status, effect, right, benefit, privilege, protection or responsibility relating to marriage, whether deriving from statute, administrative or court rule, public policy, common law or any other source of law, shall differ based on the parties to the marriage being or having been of the same sex rather than a different sex. When necessary to implement the rights and responsibilities of spouses under the law, all gender-specific language or terms shall be construed in a gender-neutral manner in all such sources of law.

Prior to the holding in Martinez, supra, and the enactment of DRL §10-a, this court would have, without any hesitation whatsoever, approved the petitioner's application for adoption of Seb C-M. However, today no such action is warranted or permitted by this court to affirm an existing, recognized and protected parent-child relationship between the petitioner and her son. Indeed, were this court to entertain the instant petition, such action would imply that, notwithstanding the existing and lawful marital relationship between the petitioner and her spouse, true marriage equality remains yet to be attained, and that, although legally recognized in this state, a same-sex marriage remains somehow insufficient to establish a parent-child relationship between one particular parent and any child born within that marriage, thereby raising equal protection concerns.

If in fact the petitioner's and M.M.'s intent is to secure additional protection of their family's legal relationship in order to assure its recognition in the event of relocation to a jurisdiction hostile to marriage equality, the more appropriate, and indeed necessary, course of action would be to seek redress of the denial of their civil rights in such jurisdiction. In just the past half year, following Windsor, a host of state and federal courts in disparate parts of the nation have struck down, on constitutional grounds, state laws and policies that limit the rights of same-sex couples to civil marriage. For example, in Obergefell v. Wymyslo, 2013 U.S. Dist. LEXIS 179550, 78-79 (S.D.Ohio Dec. 23, 2013), the court declared invalid provisions of Ohio's state constitution and statutes that banned recognition of out-of state same-gender marriages, stating in no uncertain terms Ohio must recognize valid out-of-state marriages between same-sex couples on Ohio death certificates…. That is, once you get married lawfully in one state, another state cannot summarily take your marriage away, because the right to remain married is properly recognized as a fundamental liberty interest protected by the Due Process Clause of the United States Constitution.

See also Griego v. Oliver, 2013 N.M. LEXIS 414, *65-66. (Dec. 19, 2013) (New Mexico Supreme Court, ruling on equal protection grounds that the state must allow same-gender couples to marry and "extend to them the rights, protections, and responsibilities that derive from civil marriage under state law," noted that "child-rearing for same-gender couples is made more difficult by denying them the status of being married and depriving them of the rights, protections, and responsibilities that come with civil marriage" and that "[c]hildren benefit from the presumption of legitimacy when they are born to a married couple"); Kitchen v. Herbert, 2013 WL 6697874 (D. Utah Dec. 20, 2013) (holding unconstitutional "state-law prohibition that denies the Plaintiffs their rights to due process and equal protection under the law" based on Windsor), stay denied, Kitchen v. Herbert, 2013 WL 6834634 (D. Utah Dec. 23, 2013), and stay granted, Herbert v. Kitchen, 2014 WL 30367 (U.S. Utah Jan. 6, 2014) ; Garden State Equality v. Dow, 79 A.3d 1036, 2013 N.J. LEXIS 1091, 2013 WL 5687193 at *6-7 ( Oct.18, 2013) (New Jersey Supreme Court denying stay of lower court decision holding that the State must extend the right to civil marriage to same-sex couples on equal protections grounds articulated in Windsor); Bassett v. Snyder, No. 12-10038, _ F. Supp.2d _, 2013 WL 3285111 at *23-25 (E.D. Mich. June 28, 2013) (enjoining enforcement of Michigan statute prohibiting public employers from providing medial and other benefits to co-habitants, holding that the statute displayed animus against same-sex couples and lacked a rational basis); and Bishop v. U.S. ex rel. Holder, 2014 WL 116013 (N.D. Oklahoma Jan. 14, 2014) (determining that an amendment to the Oklahoma state constitution which limited the definition of "marriage" solely to the union of one man and one woman intentionally discriminated against groups of persons and violated a same-sex couple's equal protection rights under the Fourteenth Amendment by preventing them from obtaining a marriage license).
Accordingly, it being wholly unnecessary to affirm the existing parental relationship between A. C. and her infant son, Seb C-M, the court hereby declines to entertain the instant petition for adoption.

1. Seb C-M was born in New York, New York on ____, 2013.

2. The court is fully cognizant of the reality that familial relationships sanctioned by the State of New York may be accorded lesser status, or even denied, in certain jurisdictions, and is wholly sympathetic to the concerns of families of same-sex couples who may wish or need to relocate to such jurisdictions. Nonetheless, any jurisdiction which fails to accord recognition to a marriage valid under the laws of the State of New York is equally likely to deny full faith and credit to decrees of adoption issued to same-sex couples by a New York Surrogate's Court.

3. In Sebastian, the petitioning parent was the genetic mother of a child born of her same-sex spouse, to whom she was legally married in the Netherlands. The petitioning parent had executed a surrender of her rights to her biological child as required by the physicians supervising the in vitro fertilization procedure, and the birth certificate reflected only the birth mother as the parent of the child. By virtue of her relinquishment of parental rights, the petitioner in Sebastian had no legal status as parent of the subject infant; thus, the Surrogate's entertainment and grant of her petition for adoption was appropriate. The Court notes that the decision in Sebastian pre-dates both the enactment by the State of New York of DRL §10-a, as well as the decisions of the United States Supreme Court in U.S. v. Windsor, __ U.S. __, 133 S.Ct. 2675 (2013) (finding unconstitutional the federal Defense of Marriage Act as denying same-sex couples the "equal liberty" guaranteed by the Due Process Clause of the Fifth Amendment) and in Hollingsworth v. Perry, __ U.S. __, 133 S.Ct. 2652 (2013) (finding that the proponents of California's Proposition 8 lacked standing to defend the law on appeal from a lower court's decision)."

Friday, December 7, 2012

NEW YORK MATRIMONIAL - SAME SEX COUPLES

Due to recent court decisions, it is now suggested that same-sex couples should consult with their tax attorney to see if they may qualify to file a “Protective Claim for Refund.”

More information can be found at this link:

JD SUPRA: Same-sex married couples: Consider filing a Protective Claim for Tax Refund NOW